When you hear the term unequally yoked it the first thing that comes to mind is Christian versus nonchristian. Its more than this. Its more than someone educated being with an uneducated person.
It’s about bond formed on mutual terms and exchanges, mutual care and understanding, mutual protection of each other, mutual respect, mutual giving.
Picture this someone enters a relationship and ends up being nothing short of constantly insulted or feeling like an imposer. That person spends an entire decade giving and giving and giving and in all this time hardly or never getting a Thank you, a gift of appreciation, a gesture of kindness, just hate words and actions. Then you hear reports from them through other people. You see a shift and realise that they have been poisoning minds of people to influence them to think ill of you all along. Do you stop caring no.. you go on.. BUT you realise you were unequally yoked. You realise your worth, you priortise on yourself the way they priotise on themselves, and you ignore the vain sayings that you know aren’t true. Someday they’ll realise that caring is a mutual exchange.
Points to check:-
– IF they are kind to you, really kind to you for you or for their sake and advancement mostly
– IF they give you minimum, and put maximum in their own self and circle
– IF they fail to assist you and show appreciation, and while they shower appreciation and care on someone else
– If they are secretive to you, not sharing plans and ideas, but at the same time speak freely to someone else about themselves, their plans, their ideas…
– If they come to you first to discuss something, or you are the last to know, worse do you accidentally know
– If when you accidentally know, the discussion gets shifted
– If they make excuses not to spend important moments with you
– If they refuse to make future plans with you, but make, secure and finance plans with others
– If they spend more with others and lie about this with you
– If they share less with you than you share with them
– If they readily believe and share the worse about you that you know is not true
– If they don’t share with you about themselves what they always want to know about you
– If they never seem to understand your struggle to make things happen
– If all or most they ever do is criticize, judge and spread falsehood especially to influence others against you
– If you have to beg, ask, fight or wait long to get their attention/ kindness on personal matters–
A PERSON checked out on these is only USING you.. They remain in your space to build themselves for ‘someone else’ but not to build you or anything with you. HAVE SENSE!!
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– Anthea McGibbon, Site owner
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